Self Help


What do you expect?

Does anybody remember this old board game?  When I was very young, maybe five or six years old I received a Tiddywinks game as a gift.  I was so disappointed.  As a somewhat typical young boy from a relatively poor family I wanted a toy truck or matchbox cars or something like that.  You know something I could play with. 

My disappointment was so profound that I taught myself not to expect much, that way I would not be disappointed if things did not go my way and I could be happy if they did.  And I learned to be happy with much less.  You could say I learned to settle for less.

That was such a bad thing I did to myself. It is a truth that we only will get what we hope for or less.  It has taken me over 50 years to change that errant belief system within myself.  Fifty years of under achieving and learning to be happy with middle of the road when I should have been shooting for the moon.

About one year ago I met Wayne.  We met in the oddest of ways during a live video by the owner of Riversong Guitars, Mike Miltemore.  As it turns out, Wayne had just purchased a super nice guitar that I had traded in at Speno’s Music (in Auburn NY).  We have since become fast friends primarily over our shared belief that anything you believe for is possible.

Whether you believe in The Secret, the power of positive thinking or in the Bible (As is your faith, so be it unto you), the simple truth of the matter is that we have what we believe for no more and no less.  A good friend of mine and my dancing coach, PJ Fritzler, puts it like this, “If you believe you can or you believe you can’t you are right either way”.

My life has changed so much since I have begun to believe for more.  I will be writing more about that in due time.  I can say that the results of expecting more are already showing up.

This past weekend I placed third at a dance event.  That’s a big deal for me as I’m a raw beginner and the first two competitions I entered I’m sure I placed dead last.  Yes, I was that bad. I believed and it happened.

As I have written about before, I have been doing the race up the Alp de Zwift every Thursday night.  My goal/expectation was to do it in less than two hours.  And I did just that within three weeks.

Get on that trainer and expect a better time in Zwift.  Expect a better finish at your dance competition and you will put into motion all of the things needed for that to happen mentally and physically.  When it comes to weight loss, wealth, relationships, it is all the same.  Set your expectations higher to achieve more. Believe you can and you will.

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